Every gay person will face the option of coming out to parents at some stage during their lives. This will always be an emotional journey you embark on, so come prepared.
Before you sit your parents down for the big talk, make sure about your feelings. Young people may still be confused about their feelings and coming out to early can be disastrous. Rather talk to your parents about what you are feeling and ask for their support at this stage.
Should you be living a gay life for a while now and want to tell your parents, it is a subject that needs perfect timing to open up the conversation. Never choose any place or time to come out where your parents may feel embarrassed or trapped like at the neighbor’s house.
Support as in a lover or friend may not be a good idea, as this will cause your parents to react in a polite and untruthful manner. In many cases some parents immediately took aim at the lover and made him the party to blame for your decisions.
Do not fool yourself, your parents will react, but you know them well enough to know how they will react. Many of them will hug you and tell you they are glad you finally settled with them as they suspected all along.
First concerns are usually about gay people and the negative connection between their lifestyle and HIV Aids these people suffer under. This is a perfect time to talk openly about safe sex and show your self as responsible in this matter.
Religious issues may come to the surface during your conversation, thus you should be prepared for this. Conservative parents are allowed to be upset, but they may not judge or denounce you as you may share their religious beliefs.
Your parents may not be comfortable seeing you with a lover, so respect their whishes and never push the issue. In time they will relax and see how happy you are. Before you know it they will invite your better half over.
Have lots of compassion and patience for all your family members as they process this information. In a short while they will open up and warm up to you again. Blood is thicker than water.